the quickest way to redefine motherhood is to reclaim your feminine energy
I know that you would do anything for your children. I know you would die for your children. You would lay down over a railroad track for them. But, the question I want to explore with you is – Are you willing to LIVE for them?
Are you willing to LIVE a fulfilling, passionate, soulful life of purpose for them?
Perhaps you want to say ‘YES!’, but you don’t know how. In my experience, the quickest way to live a fulfilling, passionate soulful life is to reclaim your feminine energy.
I started to explore feminine energy during my maternity, which also happened to coincide with the start of Coronavirus. The mixture of motherhood maternity and coronavirus left me feeling isolated, which in turn, brought up many emotions (and skeletons in the closet, too) and left me with a serious case of mom burnout.
My experience with mom burnout provided me with an invitation to examine the role I created for myself as a mother. What I had discovered was that my mom burnout was being activated by my over-reliance of masculine energy and making it near impossible for me to live a fulfilling, passionate and soulful life. This led me to do lots of research and self-work on how to transform my feelings of overwhelm and exhaustion to ones of peace and empowerment. And, a big part of my transformational journey from mom burnout to blissful balance was learning to reclaim my feminine energy.
Feminine Energy, what has that got to do with being a mother?
Let me tell you. Absolutely everything! Being feminine has nothing to do with wearing dresses, being a “good” mom or a stay at home mom, liking pink, fixing your family’s perceived struggles or serving your family their dreams on a silver platter either. It is all about how you, the mama, operate and express the feminine part of yourself within your everyday life.
You, me, and every mother has both masculine and feminine energy flowing through her mind and body. However, the society we live in, heavily rewards us for operating from the masculine. This puts a lot of pressure on mamas to do more, work harder, live faster, be ultra independent, and let’s face it – be a bit competitive too! Our masculine energy causes us to look outside of ourselves for approval, which almost always leads to self-judgment and feelings of unworthiness. And, this way of being makes the journey into motherhood maternity difficult to navigate.
After becoming a mother, I discovered it was too painful to stay disconnected from my feminine energy and remain in a masculine, dominant, doing-and-achieving energy. And for the first time in my life, I was ready to do the work and commit to living an aligned, soulful, and peaceful life.
My journey into motherhood maternity and lockdown called on me to heal and transform the shadowed and suppressed feminine parts of myself. The parts that are trusting, open, receptive, intuitive, creative, compassionate, nurturing, non-linear, and connected to our feelings, emotions, and healing powers.
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Reclaiming my feminine energy created a quantum shift within my life. Once I had unlocked the feminine parts of myself, my life improved drastically. Within the space of 6-months, I went from burnout to blissfully balanced. And with that renewed energy and surge of authentic expression, I went on to write a book, become a best-selling author, convert my family coaching business online and move to Bali with my husband and daughter. Tapping into feminie energy allowed me to uplevel my life in one short year in a way I hadn’t believed possible until it happened. And, now I am on a mission to share with mothers how I did it and support them in reclaiming their feminine energy too.
How to be more feminine?
1. Find a way to remove your limiting thinking and shift your current belief system
Do you believe you are deserving of a beautiful life? Do you think you are destined for greatness? Feel into that question for a moment. Place your hands on your womb, close your eyes, take a big breath, connect to your truth and answer.
I work with many moms to answer this question with a yes – but if they are honest with themselves – they aren’t feeling very good about themselves, and life isn’t feeling excellent at this current moment. If that is how you are feeling too – please know, that’s okay.
All of your feelings are valid. All of your senses are information. You have to honor the information your feelings are communicating to you to heal, shift, transform, and uplevel.
And the first step in your healing journey is to feel. Acknowledging what’s not feeling good within your life right now and acknowledging how you are keeping yourself stuck and self-sabotaging is the first step.
It is precious to acknowledge that something in your life feels off. And, after you recognize and honor your feelings and recognize your limiting beliefs, you must deeply know that there is something you can do about it, change, feel better, and transcend into a soul-aligned way of being.
A powerful way to let go is to increase your self-worth. As you start growing your self-worth, you will attract better experiences into your life. It’s a magic trick that works every time!
It’s time for you to start believing you are deserving of a wonderful life – a life in which things keep getting better – a life of greatness!
Increasing your self-worth will allow you to let go of things from the past more freely because you deeply know that goodness is on its way into your life and will arrive as soon as you make space for it. That’s the process – you let go of what’s not working, you create the space for something new, and then you let the goodness come pouring in.
2. Connect to Your Dreams and Desires
Once you release old ways of being and thinking, you can make space for you to dream! Sometimes, this can feel scary: to give yourself permission to declare what your soul is wanting and what you truly desire.
So, let me ask you.
Who are you?
What is your wildest dream and deepest desire?
What truly lights you up?
What is the most beautiful life you can imagine for yourself and your family?
Your answer to these questions will lead you to your magic and your alignment. If you are disconnected from these answers then you are disconnected to your divine feminine. It will be extremely challenging (if not impossible) for you to experience fulfillment and happiness.
The good news is that you cannot quickly answer these questions, and you can do something about it. It’s time to reconnect, to reconnect to your feminine energy. Your feminine energy will open you up to your inner Knowing: your intuition, your feeling nature, your dreams and desires, and your truth.
Find a way to relight your feminine energy by rediscovering what you love. You most likely knew as a child. Begin to allow yourself to explore, play, go on an adventure, dream, turn up the music—dance, sing, run, laugh, and shake what your mama gave you! Your body, heart, soul, and womb know what lights you up. Listen. Let your feminine nature speak to you and listen to Her messages.
What if you want to listen to her messages but can’t hear them? Then, I request you examine your attachment to choosing comfort over fulfillment.
Many mamas deny themselves the chance to dream because they are hyper-focused on meeting everyone else’s needs first – so hyper-focused on keeping everyone else comfortable and safe. This comes from an unhealthy attachment to masculine energy and is a massive disservice to you and your family. Perhaps this resonates with you?
Learning to rewire your brain to choose fulfillment over comfort will guide you to unlock this block because you are consciously permitting yourself to acknowledge your dreaming soul.
So how do you begin to choose fulfillment over comfort?
- No more compromising.
- No more sacrificing.
- No more blocking yourself from receiving.
- No more waiting until your kids are older to do that thing you deeply desire.
- No more playing it safe.
If you cannot do this for yourself, let me come back to our original question: Are you willing to LIVE a fulfilling, passionate, soulful life of purpose for your children?
If yes, then I need you to know that mamas are the ultimate creators. You are the leading creator. Your natural female energy is pure alchemy. And what is the most incredible possible life for you will result in the greatest possible life for your children.
I promise you; it goes hand in hand.
Because it’s the time!
- It’s time for you to receive the life you desire.
- It’s time for you to OWN your gifts and start sharing them with yourself, your family, and the world.
- It’s time for you to begin living in complete integrity with your Higher Self so that your kids will one day be able to do the same.
- It’s time for you to shine your light into the world so that your partner and kids can do the same.
- It’s time for you to find your mama groove.
3. Embody The Elements
You are here to become the most balanced, happy, and connected mama, you know. It calls on you to embody and live your truth by openly sharing your dreams.
And you living in this way invites your partner and children to do the same.
And a powerful way for you to choose fulfillment, hear your intuition, and claim what you desire is through embodiment.
Embodying the 5 Elements is the heart of my coaching methodology outlined in my book, Find Your Mama Groove, and will allow you to tap into your feminine energy and UPLEVEL your life to a whole new dimension. It is the medicine you are craving to live a more authentic and more beautiful life. And, you will be doing this in a softer, more playful, more intuitive way than you’ve ever done before.
Embodying the Elements allows you to flip the switch from robot to flower. It will give you the tools needed to stop numbing out and instead access your entire range of emotions and express them easily.
When you’re dis-embodied from the elements and unable to access your feminine energy you:
- Eat your emotions
- Use external sensations (like sugar, food, wine, shopping, sex) to fill the numbness of your body
- Break your boundaries
- Feel you’re not good enough
- Don’t know how your body wants to move
- Have trouble making decisions & knowing what you want
- Put yourself last
- Are addicted to pleasing others.
- Live from your head rather than your heart.
- Have difficulty being present with your partner and kids.
- Go through the motions and find it difficult to experience true pleasure, happiness, or joy.
Embodying the elements is the medicine that transforms your heart from closed to wide open so that you can live a fulfilling, happy, and soul-aligned life. It is the path from releasing masculine energetic blocks so that you can finally tap into and reclaim your feminine energy and power.
In my experience, most mothers in the western world are using about 15%-20% of their available feminine energy and body wisdom. It was the case for me and perhaps why I was drawn to embodiment. Indeed, I had emotions! I could tell you when I was hungry and overwhelmed, but I lived most of my life from my head.
Life was an endless to-do list of problems to solve and destinations to get to. It just felt more comfortable, safer, and easier to be in my head rather than in my heart (where I feel everything) or in my hips (experiencing all the pain and possibilities of pleasure that live there).
The language of our body is sensations. And we uncover a great deal of who we are by feeling them.
Take a moment to consider these questions:
1. Where am I holding tension in my body?
2. How do I feel when someone whispers to me, “you are beautiful?”
3. If I breathe into my heart, what does it want me to acknowledge?
How did you answer these questions, and what resources or process did you go through to answer them? An embodied woman would pause to feel her answer & come to know her truth through being sensitive to information and wisdom alive inside her at all times.
Like everything in life, transformation doesn’t happen at the snap of your fingers – it takes real work. But trust me, it’s worth the effort.
Know that there is something inside of yourself that is greater than any obstacle. Know that there is something inside of yourself that is greater than any imbalance. Know that there is something inside of yourself that is greater than your current circumstances.
Trust your innate KNOWING. Trust yourself to REDEFINE MOTHERHOOD. Trust your FEMININE MAGIC. Trust the timing that life is unfolding for you.
Imagine with me: What if in 2-3 weeks from now you woke up and …
- For the first time in a long time, you had a clear vision for what you wanted for your life.
- Felt a radical shift in your mindset and heart-set – the kind of shift that finally allows you to feel true peace in your life and with your loved ones.
- Finally, you started to believe that you matter, like really matter, and therefore you start taking responsibility for your life in a whole new way that feels freeing and liberating.
- Trusted yourself and the universe so deeply that you had a renewed sense of energy, intuition, desire, and passion for life.
Here is the thing … I want what you want.
And, if you are committed to finding your proper balance and attracting your most extraordinary possibilities in, then I’m deeply committed to getting you there in the fastest and most straightforward way possible.
And, the fastest and most simple way possible is to redefine Motherhood and embody the elements.
So let me ask you….
Are you Ready to use your feminine energy?
- Ready to let go of fear, anxiety, and the need to control?
- Ready to redefine Motherhood and for being a mama to start feeling easier and more fun?
- Ready to live a life that is better than anything you could have imagined?
- Prepared to feel focused, energized, and genuinely happy?
- Willing to acknowledge your dreams and declare them out loud?
- Ready to indeed start living – both for yourself and your kids?
Then let me give you a free digital copy of my best-selling book, Find Your Mama Groove. It will be like having me right in your pocket as your very own life coach. It will give you my instruction and guidance. I’ll share methods I’ve been using for years to get mamas feeling feminine, aligned, and balanced.
And know that I am here for you to reclaim your feminine energy, unlock your blocks, and support you in stepping into your magic. You are never alone. Together, in our feminine energy, we rise all the way up!