“I didn’t back it up, what if I have to buy a new computer?” “Can my files be retrieved?” “Please turn on.”And then I gave up, realizing there wasn’t much I could do except charge the machine and get on with my day. I would address the “what ifs” should they happen. I plugged in my computer and moved on. A part of me felt grateful for not being able to turn on my computer: “Well now I will give my undivided attention to the day and to my daughter.” Sometimes duka moments last a long time or can be triggered by more extreme situations: a cancer diagnosis, losing a loved one, not getting a job, etc.
But how do you create a bridge that allows you to participate in the fullness of life without spiraling out into the highs and tumbling into the lows?
1. Consider suka duka less as a polarity, and more of a circle of oneness where the circle is both empty and full. Accept the wholeness of life experiences, and attempt to find a relaxed state that allows you to observe the highs and lows and all the places in between.
2. Practice compassion. Compassion is the container that holds all things. Whatever is causing suffering in your life, create a container of compassion for it. Hold it with loving attention as if you were a grandmother holding a baby. A sense of gratitude can shift the hardest of sentiments.
3. Ishvara pranidhana: Let go and let God(dess). Offer your situation to the highest good for the benefit of all. Offer up your joy, offer up your grief. Allow wisdom to be revealed to you. Bridging suka and duka is a practice of inner alchemy. You become the alchemist. You turn water into wine. Consider where can you apply this inner alchemy in your life.
By the way, my computer turned back on 12 hours later!