losing a loved one

You’ve just lost someone close to you – a parent, a partner, a sibling, a friend. I don’t even want to write ‘a child’ – but this can happens, too. What now?

It does seem at first as if the world has come to a halt. Your life will never be the same, but many people around you just go on about their daily lives and you find yourself wondering – how is this possible.

No words anyone can say or write will change the way you feel those first few hours, first few days, even first few weeks.

When I lost my younger brother a week before his twentieth birthday in a freak drowning accident, I could hardly believe the new reality. My parents were in an even worse situation – for losing a child is one of the hardest losses of all. It feels beyond unfair. It feels as if it is against the natural order of things.

However, the hours, days and weeks passed and I noticed something strange, out of the ordinary. Being a skeptic, a daughter to secular parents and a sister to a recently deceased brother, an atheist, I did not want to admit what I was experiencing. But eventually, I opened my mind to the possibility that despite my brother Michael’s physical death, he was not completely gone. I could still feel his presence; I could still hear his thoughts. However, I seemed to be the only one able to sense these things, which was quite disturbing at the time. Perhaps I was losing my mind?

After months and years of research, including training in spiritual practices as well as hypnosis and past life regression, I can now say with confidence what I firmly believe: our deceased loved ones are not gone forever, they are not really ‘dead’. They are just different now. They continue to a life after earthly life.

Especially close to their time of passing, in the hours and days after they’ve gone to what today I can comfortably refer to as ‘The Other Side’, you could try talking to them. And even more important: try listening to them. You might be surprised to find that you can hear their messages in a song on the radio, the words of a stranger or a whisper in the wind.

True, initially, this will feel strange. It might feel as if it is grief messing with your mind. But as you open up to the possibility of direct communication with your loved ones on The Other Side, you might discover a new reality, one that will make their passing to the life beyond life and your continued existence without them – until you meet again – easier, more acceptable, less painful.

The most amazing thing about these experiences is that once shared, they are suddenly not so unusual, as many people do admit to having felt a contact with their deceased loved ones – but it seems to be one of those taboo subjects that are difficult to discuss. Don’t let that stop you from trying – and you might be pleasantly surprised by your new insights. 



Daniela I. Norris is a former diplomat, turned political writer and with age and wisdom – spiritual writer and speaker. Her recent book On Dragonfly Wings – a skeptic’s journey to mediumship was released in April 2014 from Axis Mundi Books, and her upcoming collection of short stories titled Collecting Feathers: tales from The Other Side will be out in November 2014 from Soul Rocks Books. She lives near Geneva, Switzerland. 

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