How well do you know your partner? How well do you communicate with each other? Does your partner often upset you? Does he/she do things you don’t want them to do, or do they not do things you wish they did?
In other words, do you feel as they do not fulfill your “needs?” Before you decide to find someone else who you think will give you what you want or need, consider deeply that maybe none of it has to do with them.
A partner who challenges you is someone who can bring you directly to the highest aspects of yourself. They will show you all of your own hidden shadows and the parts of yourself you are running away from. This sounds terrifying, but it is through this process that you will be liberated from the limiting, false beliefs that lie dormant inside of you, creating a more symbiotic relationship between you and your partner.
This kind of partner can be your portal to the divine, if you allow it.
If you are willing to buckle up your seat belt tightly when the ride gets bumpy, then there is a tremendous amount of freedom and liberation on the other side.
The issues that may come up in your relationship are not about your partner, but about a piece of you that is trying to be seen. The things you are not getting from your partner are not about them fulfilling these needs.
No one will ever be able to fulfill your needs but you. Nor will anything outside of yourself will ever fulfill you or make you happy.
If you come across difficulties in your relationship that are about your partner needing to change for you, these are actually opportunities to see how you can fulfill those needs within yourself. Once you do this, it will open the door to your partner reflecting these needs back to you. What is within you will be reflected back. Or better, it won’t even matter to you any longer because that perceived void or lack of will be filled from within.
We tend to project our issues onto the ones we love. In fact, it’s never about the story that is happening, but what the feelings are underneath the story. When this can be understood, you will see that it wasn’t really about them, and it frees you from the emotional charge you were experiencing. You can therefore comprehend that this was a hidden pain that was within you waiting to be expressed. This is true union with the divine. The divine within yourself, with your partner simply being a reflection of it.
This type of union isn’t just for your evolution but for your partner as well. If you are feeling as though your partner may not be willing to be as objective or conscious, just apply it for yourself and see what happens. Either, your frequency will help shift them, or you will attract someone else who will.
You are one blessed being if you are in such a relationship, as it will allow you to dive deeper into the depth of your being. Thank your partner deeply for not giving you what you want so that it can bring you closer to the truth of who you really are. Thank the magic that has brought you two together!