LEARNING A NEW WAY TO COMMUNICATE WITH YOURSELF AND OTHERS
In our previous practice we focused on observing your language. We introduced the concept of what is, versus what we perceive, to maintain ourselves in the now and therefore in a higher vibration.
Here we want to go one step further and give you an actually technique called NVC, which was created by Marshall Rosenberg. He was an American psychologist, mediator, author and teacher who in the early 1960s developed Nonviolent Communication, as a process for supporting partnership and resolving conflict. If “violent” means acting in ways that result in hurt or harm, then much of how we communicate could be considered “violent communication.”
We were lucky enough to be introduced to this technique 18 years ago and it completely transformed the course of our relationships.
The impact was so profound that we train diligently to maintain this communication as part of our daily practice, which led us to teaching this technique in our 2 day workshops across the globe.
By now you must be wondering what simple technique could be so transformative? So here it is.
Would it be great to increase your ability to live with choice, meaning, and connection? This technique enables you to connect empathically with self and others, and have more satisfying relationships through clear and authentic communication.
Follow these 3 basic steps : Observation – Feelings – Needs.
By allowing yourself to see every single situation within the frame of that technique, you will immediately alleviate all judgment, evaluation and labeling.
Overtime you will be able to go rapidly through the steps and access naturally which need of yours is met or unmet.
Use the reframing below to re-write the way you speak (to yourself or others) about the situations that are troubling you. Remember to stay very “factual” when you make your observation, so you are staying in an emotionally “safe zone.”
Example: You should have at least call me before you came over.
1. OBSERVATION – When I see that you came over without calling first….
2. FEELING – I felt frustrated, annoyed…
3. NEED – I have a need for consideration and planning in advance.
Wouldn’t if be amazing to be able to speak your truth and express very clearly what you feel and need.
So all you have to do now is to:
– Grab a piece of paper & a pen.
– Think about a situation from your past when you tried to communicate something and it didn’t go so well.
– Write down on the paper the exact words you were using in your communication.
– And then rewrite it using the 3 step process you have learnt today using NVC.
Drop us a comment below, we can’t wait to hear how it’s working for you!
Don’t let reviewing all 5 previous days to higher vibration turn into a “should have”. Go over all of them now to ensure you’re ready for tomorrow’s final lesson.
Add NVC to Day 1, Day 2, Day 3, Day 4, Day 5 and you’ll be one step closer to your highest vibration.